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Post Abortion Emotional Health
Learn More about Post Abortion Emotional Health

Emotional Aftercare

Ending a pregnancy is an important life decision and it is completely normal to have feelings about it. Most women are relieved that the abortion is over, but some may also have other feelings. Problem signs include crying a lot, having trouble concentrating at work or school, trouble sleeping or eating. If you find that you are sad or guilty and it is not getting better, you may want further help. If you want to talk to someone, contact the clinic, your doctor, or a community mental health agency in your town. See also the resources below.

Other suggestions:

1. If you are feeling alone in this experience it is important to find someone to talk to, either a trusted friend or family member, clergy, or a professional counselor.
2. If there are people who oppose your decision or if you are worried about regretting it later, take some time to write down your reasons and how you felt about ending the pregnancy. Save this to read at a later date if you need to.
3. There is written material on dealing with your feelings after an abortion. You can look at the Pregnancy Options Workbook, especially the "healing after" section, on the internet (Pregnancy Options Workbook). Other books and literature are also available to help you.
4. Whatever you were feeling before your abortion will likely continue afterwards. If you are having problems in a relationship or with a family member, you should try to resolve that, perhaps with the help of a counselor or trusted advisor. If you have been prescribed medication for depression or other mood problems, continue it as directed.

RESOURCES

• "Healthy Coping After an Abortion"
• www.pregnancyoptions.info, especially the section “healing after” for discussion and exercises to help sort out your feelings after a pregnancy loss.
• YourBACKLINE.org A national talk-line that offers help making a decision and support before during and after a pregnancy decision. Call 888.493.0092 Hours of Operations (Pacific Standard Time): Monday through Thursday, 5 pm - 10 pm Friday through Saturday, 10 am - 3 pm
• www.4exhale.org A talk-line for women and men who want to talk about post abortion feelings. Offers in 4 languages. 1-866- 4-EXHALE. Exhale will begin accepting national calls after June 1, 2005.
• www.abortionconversation.com This entire site is a project of the Abortion Care Network, called the Abortion Conversation Project. The goal of the project is challenge and eliminate stigma attached to abortion. Learn how abortion providers and allies of choice are working to encourage a national open and honest conversation about abortion.
• www.peaceafterabortion.com - based on the book "Peace After Abortion". You will find information here to help you understand the origin of your emotional and spiritual pain. You will also find the stories of other women who have experienced distress related to an abortion.
• www.afterabortion.com A self help website run by an individual who offers a program of recovery for women in distress about an abortion experience. Non-political.
• www.imnotsorry.net A website that counters the claim that women are harmed by abortion. Women can post messages.
• www.abortionchronicles.com Women tell their own stories.
• www.cath4choice.org --The Catholics for Choice site contains information for Catholic women about the abortion decision in English and Spanish.
• www.rcrc.org --The Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice is a national organization that has affiliates in many states who may offer clergy counseling services in your area.

Books

Our Choices, Our Lives: Unapologetic Writings on Abortion - Krista Jacobs

Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion, and Other Pregnancy Loss - Kim Kluger-Bell

In Good Conscience: A Practical, Emotional and Spiritual Guide to Deciding Whether or Not to Have An Abortion - Anna Runkle

A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal Especially for women who have ended a pregnancy due to fetal problems. Available from www.pregnancyoptions.info store.

THE HEALING CHOICE Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After an Abortion, by Candace DePuy, Ph.D. and Dana Dovitch, Ph.D., $12, Simon & Schuster, available in bookstores or 1-800-999-7909.

Peace After Abortion, by Ava Torre Bueno Pimpernel Press available from www.pregnancyoptions.info store

For more resources, go to www.ChoiceLinkup.com.

 
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